Big tech's 'fake work' problem, autonomous transportation as a force multiplier for productivity, LinkedIn recommendations X-ray and the ethics of using LinkedIn as a dating app
Hung- I am very interested in your 9/8 session on ageism in the recruiting world and would like to jump on live for a few minutes if interested. Cheers, mate! PS: Look forward to meeting you at RecFest in Nashville!
I think it depends on the intent. If your only goal is to find love partner, and you are going about it in a very nonconsensual, disrespectful way - this is never okay on any platform, but LinkedIn especially, since a lot of people truly use it as a professional, not personal, SM tool. In that case, by default of the platform purpose, it may be considered inappropriate. Using LinkedIn to 'check' your potential partner is no different than using any other social media to do the same. In the times we live in, that's what we do on a daily basis anyway with employers/clients/businesses, etc. We check them out, we verify, and we try to see if they can be trusted.
However, people fall in love in a work setting all the time, so if you happen to strike a conversation on LinkedIn that led to friendship, and then led to something more, then I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it. We can be happy that people are still able to find each other in this whirlwind of the world we live in.
I think you go some of the way toward explaining why I felt generally ok with Candilcious's approach - social media is in daily use and it is not nefarious to get information where you can - certainly we exhaust all channels if we are really interested in a person.
How would you feel if LinkedIn was used to find a partner (rather than check a prospect found elsewhere). Does this it make you feel differently?
agreed! it is all about data accessibility with all social media. Personally, I think there are quite a few tools and channels out there that are created specifically for dating-networking, so if I look bluntly at it without any context, I'd say, I don't think LinkedIn should be used to find a partner. As it is, with the amount of personal information posted on LI right now, it becomes harder to find posts that are relevant to industries we all belong to OR have a conversation that will be open and engaging while still being about professional development and professional networking OR send an InMail that won't be automatically disregarded because people are just too tired fielding inappropriate messages or requests, so they just decline by default. My thinking is, at the end of the day, LI used to be about quality of connections and in-network trust that started to get diluted once you invite too much 'personal' into something that was intended as 'professional'.
That being said, I am not against evolution of LinkedIn and LinkedIn content, and I am not against getting to know my connections, as this is how true long-lasting relationships are built, so this is not to advocate to remove authentic content. But I think that if you open the floodgates and weir too far away from what originally separated LI from other social media, it will soon enough stop being beneficial to anyone involved and will become all about click-chance, rather than expertise, facts, data and professional relationship building. sorry for the tirade :)
Send a DM to individuals who meet your criteria and lead off with unsolicited flirting / comments on their body / overtures? Ew.
Connect with someone you find genuinely interesting and wind up having great conversations that indicate you might have something deeper in common? Not really that different from a networking event or work mixer, IMO.
Also, +++ to Lizzi's note that people are going to use any and every tool available to "vet" potential partners. That includes LinkedIn. In theory, LI should be the most innocuous of all the SM sites. But I've seen people post some diatribes & berate others in the comments in ways that would immediately move them to the "no go" pile if I were single.
Thanks Heather, I think this is a great way of looking at it. There needs to be some sort of rapport before overtures ensue, basics. I must confess I have never received any such approach so cannot speak from experience, but I expect that I would find it extremely off putting if I were Inmailed with a direct solicitation or some sort of overt charm attempt!
Everyone should be able to find love in the world and use whatever sources our there. Also with so much scamming going on its a smart way to check potential match's unless of course they are fake !
Thank you Christine. I am inclined to agree - it seems that 'safe spaces' for dating (i.e Tinder etc) turn out to be often very far from safe. We need to be able to meet people and say hello - but how to do this in an acceptable way is nuanced and contextual
Hung- I am very interested in your 9/8 session on ageism in the recruiting world and would like to jump on live for a few minutes if interested. Cheers, mate! PS: Look forward to meeting you at RecFest in Nashville!
let's get you involved Steve - what is your email, I will add you
Very good! Steve.jewell52@gmail.com. I will be all ears this Friday!
I think it depends on the intent. If your only goal is to find love partner, and you are going about it in a very nonconsensual, disrespectful way - this is never okay on any platform, but LinkedIn especially, since a lot of people truly use it as a professional, not personal, SM tool. In that case, by default of the platform purpose, it may be considered inappropriate. Using LinkedIn to 'check' your potential partner is no different than using any other social media to do the same. In the times we live in, that's what we do on a daily basis anyway with employers/clients/businesses, etc. We check them out, we verify, and we try to see if they can be trusted.
However, people fall in love in a work setting all the time, so if you happen to strike a conversation on LinkedIn that led to friendship, and then led to something more, then I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it. We can be happy that people are still able to find each other in this whirlwind of the world we live in.
Great comment Lizzi!
I think you go some of the way toward explaining why I felt generally ok with Candilcious's approach - social media is in daily use and it is not nefarious to get information where you can - certainly we exhaust all channels if we are really interested in a person.
How would you feel if LinkedIn was used to find a partner (rather than check a prospect found elsewhere). Does this it make you feel differently?
agreed! it is all about data accessibility with all social media. Personally, I think there are quite a few tools and channels out there that are created specifically for dating-networking, so if I look bluntly at it without any context, I'd say, I don't think LinkedIn should be used to find a partner. As it is, with the amount of personal information posted on LI right now, it becomes harder to find posts that are relevant to industries we all belong to OR have a conversation that will be open and engaging while still being about professional development and professional networking OR send an InMail that won't be automatically disregarded because people are just too tired fielding inappropriate messages or requests, so they just decline by default. My thinking is, at the end of the day, LI used to be about quality of connections and in-network trust that started to get diluted once you invite too much 'personal' into something that was intended as 'professional'.
That being said, I am not against evolution of LinkedIn and LinkedIn content, and I am not against getting to know my connections, as this is how true long-lasting relationships are built, so this is not to advocate to remove authentic content. But I think that if you open the floodgates and weir too far away from what originally separated LI from other social media, it will soon enough stop being beneficial to anyone involved and will become all about click-chance, rather than expertise, facts, data and professional relationship building. sorry for the tirade :)
I'm with Lizzi here. Intent and tactics matter.
Send a DM to individuals who meet your criteria and lead off with unsolicited flirting / comments on their body / overtures? Ew.
Connect with someone you find genuinely interesting and wind up having great conversations that indicate you might have something deeper in common? Not really that different from a networking event or work mixer, IMO.
Also, +++ to Lizzi's note that people are going to use any and every tool available to "vet" potential partners. That includes LinkedIn. In theory, LI should be the most innocuous of all the SM sites. But I've seen people post some diatribes & berate others in the comments in ways that would immediately move them to the "no go" pile if I were single.
Thanks Heather, I think this is a great way of looking at it. There needs to be some sort of rapport before overtures ensue, basics. I must confess I have never received any such approach so cannot speak from experience, but I expect that I would find it extremely off putting if I were Inmailed with a direct solicitation or some sort of overt charm attempt!
I got a "Hey Dear" message just today. Yuck.
Everyone should be able to find love in the world and use whatever sources our there. Also with so much scamming going on its a smart way to check potential match's unless of course they are fake !
Thank you Christine. I am inclined to agree - it seems that 'safe spaces' for dating (i.e Tinder etc) turn out to be often very far from safe. We need to be able to meet people and say hello - but how to do this in an acceptable way is nuanced and contextual